Brainstorm

Parenting from the Inside Out

How a Deeper Self-Understanding Can Help You Raise Children Who Thrive: 10th Anniversary Edition

Daniel J. Siegel, MD, Mary Hartzell

An updated edition—with a new preface—of the bestselling parenting classic by the author of "BRAINSTORM: The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain" In Parenting from the Inside Out, child psychiatrist Daniel J. Siegel, M.D., and early childhood expert Mary Hartzell, M.Ed., explore the extent to which our childhood experiences shape the way we parent. Drawing on stunning new findings in neurobiology and attachment research, they explain how interpersonal relationships directly impact the development of the brain, and offer parents a step-by-step approach to forming a deeper understanding of their own life stories, which will help them raise compassionate and resilient children. Born out of a series of parents' workshops that combined Siegel's cutting-edge research on how communication impacts brain development with Hartzell's decades of experience as a child-development specialist and parent educator, this book guides parents through creating the necessary foundations for loving and secure relationships with their children.

The Whole-Brain Child

12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind

Daniel J. Siegel, MD, Tina Payne Bryson

NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • More than 2 million copies in print! • The authors of No-Drama Discipline and The Yes Brain explain the new science of how a child’s brain is wired and how it matures in this pioneering, practical book. “Simple, smart, and effective solutions to your child’s struggles.”—Harvey Karp, M.D. In this pioneering, practical book, Daniel J. Siegel, neuropsychiatrist and author of the bestselling Mindsight, and parenting expert Tina Payne Bryson offer a revolutionary approach to child rearing with twelve key strategies that foster healthy brain development, leading to calmer, happier children. The authors explain—and make accessible—the new science of how a child’s brain is wired and how it matures. The “upstairs brain,” which makes decisions and balances emotions, is under construction until the mid-twenties. And especially in young children, the right brain and its emotions tend to rule over the logic of the left brain. No wonder kids throw tantrums, fight, or sulk in silence. By applying these discoveries to everyday parenting, you can turn any outburst, argument, or fear into a chance to integrate your child’s brain and foster vital growth. Complete with age-appropriate strategies for dealing with day-to-day struggles and illustrations that will help you explain these concepts to your child, The Whole-Brain Child shows you how to cultivate healthy emotional and intellectual development so that your children can lead balanced, meaningful, and connected lives. “[A] useful child-rearing resource for the entire family . . . The authors include a fair amount of brain science, but they present it for both adult and child audiences.”—Kirkus Reviews “Strategies for getting a youngster to chill out [with] compassion.”—The Washington Post “This erudite, tender, and funny book is filled with fresh ideas based on the latest neuroscience research. I urge all parents who want kind, happy, and emotionally healthy kids to read The Whole-Brain Child. This is my new baby gift.”—Mary Pipher, Ph.D., author of Reviving Ophelia and The Shelter of Each Other “Gives parents and teachers ideas to get all parts of a healthy child’s brain working together.”—Parent to Parent

The Power of Showing Up

How Parental Presence Shapes Who Our Kids Become and How Their Brains Get Wired

Daniel J. Siegel, MD, Tina Payne Bryson

Parenting isn’t easy. Showing up is. Your greatest impact begins right where you are. Now the bestselling authors of The Whole-Brain Child and No-Drama Discipline explain what this means over the course of childhood. “There is parenting magic in this book.”—Michael Thompson, Ph.D., co-author of the New York Times bestselling classic Raising Cain One of the very best scientific predictors for how any child turns out—in terms of happiness, academic success, leadership skills, and meaningful relationships—is whether at least one adult in their life has consistently shown up for them. In an age of scheduling demands and digital distractions, showing up for your child might sound like a tall order. But as bestselling authors Daniel Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson reassuringly explain, it doesn’t take a lot of time, energy, or money. Instead, showing up means offering a quality of presence. And it’s simple to provide once you understand the four building blocks of a child’s healthy development. Every child needs to feel what Siegel and Bryson call the Four S’s: • Safe: We can’t always insulate a child from injury or avoid doing something that leads to hurt feelings. But when we give a child a sense of safe harbor, she will be able to take the needed risks for growth and change. • Seen: Truly seeing a child means we pay attention to his emotions—both positive and negative—and strive to attune to what’s happening in his mind beneath his behavior. • Soothed: Soothing isn’t about providing a life of ease; it’s about teaching your child how to cope when life gets hard, and showing him that you’ll be there with him along the way. A soothed child knows that he’ll never have to suffer alone. • Secure: When a child knows she can count on you, time and again, to show up—when you reliably provide safety, focus on seeing her, and soothe her in times of need, she will trust in a feeling of secure attachment. And thrive! Based on the latest brain and attachment research, The Power of Showing Up shares stories, scripts, simple strategies, illustrations, and tips for honoring the Four S’s effectively in all kinds of situations—when our kids are struggling or when they are enjoying success; when we are consoling, disciplining, or arguing with them; and even when we are apologizing for the times we don’t show up for them. Demonstrating that mistakes and missteps are repairable and that it’s never too late to mend broken trust, this book is a powerful guide to cultivating your child’s healthy emotional landscape.

The Yes Brain

How to Cultivate Courage, Curiosity, and Resilience in Your Child

Daniel J. Siegel, MD, Tina Payne Bryson

From the authors of The Whole-Brain Child and No-Drama Discipline, an indispensable guide to unlocking your child’s innate capacity for resilience, compassion, and creativity. When facing contentious issues such as screen time, food choices, and bedtime, children often act out or shut down, responding with reactivity instead of receptivity. This is what New York Times bestselling authors Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson call a No Brain response. But our kids can be taught to approach life with openness and curiosity. When kids work from a Yes Brain, they’re more willing to take chances and explore. They’re more curious and imaginative. They’re better at relationships and handling adversity. In The Yes Brain, the authors give parents skills, scripts, and activities to bring kids of all ages into the beneficial “yes” state. You’ll learn • the four fundamentals of the Yes Brain—balance, resilience, insight, and empathy—and how to strengthen them • the key to knowing when kids need a gentle push out of a comfort zone vs. needing the “cushion” of safety and familiarity • strategies for navigating away from negative behavioral and emotional states (aggression and withdrawal) and expanding your child’s capacity for positivity The Yes Brain is an essential tool for nurturing positive potential and keeping your child’s inner spark glowing and growing strong. Praise for The Yes Brain “This unique and exciting book shows us how to help children embrace life with all of its challenges and thrive in the modern world. Integrating research from social development, clinical psychology, and neuroscience, it’s a veritable treasure chest of parenting insights and techniques.”—Carol S. Dweck, Ph.D., author of Mindset “I have never read a better, clearer explanation of the impact parenting can have on a child’s brain and personality.”—Michael Thompson, Ph.D. “Easily assimilated and informative, the book will help adults enable children to lead physically and emotionally satisfying and well-rounded lives filled with purpose and meaningful relationships. Edifying, easy-to-understand scientific research that shows the benefits that accrue when a child is encouraged to be inquisitive, spirited, and intrepid.”—Kirkus Reviews

No-Drama Discipline

The Whole-Brain Way to Calm the Chaos and Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind

Daniel J. Siegel, MD, Tina Payne Bryson

NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • The pioneering experts behind The Whole-Brain Child and The Yes Brain tackle the ultimate parenting challenge: discipline. “A lot of fascinating insights . . . an eye-opener worth reading.”—Parents Highlighting the fascinating link between a child’s neurological development and the way a parent reacts to misbehavior, No-Drama Discipline provides an effective, compassionate road map for dealing with tantrums, tensions, and tears—without causing a scene. Defining the true meaning of the “d” word (to instruct, not to shout or reprimand), the authors explain how to reach your child, redirect emotions, and turn a meltdown into an opportunity for growth. By doing so, the cycle of negative behavior (and punishment) is essentially brought to a halt, as problem solving becomes a win/win situation. Inside this sanity-saving guide you’ll discover • strategies that help parents identify their own discipline philosophy—and master the best methods to communicate the lessons they are trying to impart • facts on child brain development—and what kind of discipline is most appropriate and constructive at all ages and stages • the way to calmly and lovingly connect with a child—no matter how extreme the behavior—while still setting clear and consistent limits • tips for navigating your child through a tantrum to achieve insight, empathy, and repair • twenty discipline mistakes even the best parents make—and how to stay focused on the principles of whole-brain parenting and discipline techniques Complete with candid stories and playful illustrations that bring the authors’ suggestions to life, No-Drama Discipline shows you how to work with your child’s developing mind, peacefully resolve conflicts, and inspire happiness and strengthen resilience in everyone in the family. Praise for No-Drama Discipline “With lucid, engaging prose accompanied by cartoon illustrations, Siegel and Bryson help parents teach and communicate more effectively.”—Publishers Weekly “Wow! This book grabbed me from the very first page and did not let go.”—Lawrence J. Cohen, Ph.D., author of The Opposite of Worry

THE POWER OF SHOWING UP Bagaimana Kehadiran Orangtua Membentuk Pribadi Anak Ketika Dewasa dan Cara Saraf-Saraf Otak Mereka Bekerja Optimal

Daniel J. Siegel, M.D.,Tina Payne Bryson, PhD

Mengasuh anak itu jelas tidak mudah. Tapi, mendampingi anak, dan benar-benar ada di sampingnya itu jauh lebih mudah. Dan nyatanya, dampak terbesar dimulai justru ketika Anda berada di tempat Anda sekarang, di hadapan anak Anda dan dirasakan kehadirannya. Bagaimana setiap anak akan menjadi—dalam hal kebahagiaan, kesuksesan akademis, kepemimpinan, dan memiliki hubungan yang bermakna—sangat ditentukan oleh setidaknya satu orang dewasa dalam hidup mereka yang secara konsisten muncul dan selalu ada untuk mereka. Di zaman yang padat jadwal dan penuh distraksi digital, selalu ada untuk anak Anda mungkin terdengar seperti tugas yang sangat sulit. Akan tetapi, seperti yang dijelaskan secara meyakinkan oleh penulis buku terlaris Daniel Siegel dan Tina Payne Bryson, sebenarnya hal itu tidak menuntut banyak waktu, energi, atau uang. Sebaliknya, showing up berarti menawarkan kualitas kehadiran. Setiap anak perlu merasakan apa yang disebut Siegel dan Bryson sebagai Empat S: • Safe (terlindungi): Kita tidak selalu dapat melindungi anak dari cedera atau menghindari melakukan sesuatu yang mengarah pada perasaan terluka. Tetapi ketika kita memberi pada anak rasa terlindungi, aman, dan nyaman, maka dia akan mampu mengambil risiko yang diperlukan untuk bertumbuh dan menghadapi perubahan. • Seen (terlihat): Benar-benar melihat seorang anak berarti kita memperhatikan emosinya—baik positif maupun negatif—dan berusaha menyesuaikan diri dengan apa yang terjadi di dalam benaknya di balik perilakunya. • Soothed (ditenangkan): Diberi ketenangan bukan tentang memberikan kehidupan yang nyaman. Ini tentang mengajari anak Anda bagaimana cara mengatasi ketika hidup menjadi sulit, dan menunjukkan kepadanya bahwa Anda akan berusaha selalu ada bersamanya di sepanjang perjalanan—bahwa dia tidak akan pernah menderita sendirian. • Secure (aman): Ketika seorang anak tahu bahwa dia dapat mengandalkan Anda akan selalu muncul dan menemani—ketika Anda memberikan rasa aman, fokus untuk melihat hanya kepadanya, dan menenangkannya pada saat dibutuhkan—anak akan percaya pada perasaan kelekatan yang aman. Dan terus berkembang! The Power of Showing Up berbagi cerita, percakapan, strategi sederhana, ilustrasi, dan tip untuk menerapkan Empat S secara efektif dalam berbagai jenis situasi. Buku ini adalah panduan yang ampuh untuk mengembangkan lanskap emosional anak yang sehat.

Girls Just Want to Have Likes

How to Raise Confident Girls in the Face of Social Media Madness

Laurie Wolk

An educator and leadership coach teaches parents how to cut through daughters' addiction to social media and reclaim family connection. In today's age of social media, young girls are learning crucial life lessons from dubious mentors like the Kardashians and other Instagram "celebrities." Many are so thoroughly addicted to social media they are uncomfortable communicating face to face. It's no wonder parents across the country are afraid for their daughters' self-esteem and ability to thrive in the real world. In Girls Just Want to Have Likes, educator and leadership coach Laurie Wolk offers smart advice on how parents can take control, communicate meaningfully with their children, and get back to raising confident capable young women. Laurie shows parents how to reclaim their roles as mentor and guide, helping their daughters unwind and decode the toxic messages social media broadcasts. By applying Laurie's methods, social media will start to fade into the background of your household, allowing family connection to take center stage—and letting your daughter shine.

Rethinking Your Teenager

Shifting from Control and Conflict to Structure and Nurture to Raise Accountable Young Adults

Darby Fox

The teenage years. . . parents fear this stage, dreading it even while watching their adorable toddlers explore the world. When it arrives, they try to control their teenager, in turn causing their teenager to push back more intensely. It's a natural instinct on both sides: teenagers are changing in every way while trying to assert their independence, and parents are faced with the challenge of coming up with rules, expectations, and standards for behavior without a genuine understanding of what is happening. But the result of this pattern is a parent-child relationship defined by conflict and reactivity--a breeding ground for stress, anger, and anxiety, all of which reinforcing those same cultural stereotypes and worst fears. But it doesn't have to be this way. In this book, family therapist Darby Fox challenges parents to redefine the goals of adolescence by reorienting their focus from what they want their child to be to on who they want their child to be. Darby not only equips parents with the insight to understand the changes taking place in their child's brain and body and support their adolescent's bid for independence, but also offers an approach that allows parents to engage their adolescent in a relationship instead of struggling in an endless battle for control. The book is organized around a series of persistent myths about adolescence, each of which the author tears down with a combination of cutting edge neuroscience research, developmental psychology, and her own mix of clinical observations and experience raising four children. Darby offers a new model for the parent-child relationship, encouraging parents to let go of the attempt to control their teenager and focus instead on creating mutual respect, providing structure and nurture, and encouraging independence in their developing teenager. She walks through the keys to combining structure and nurture and teaches parents how to connect with their teen while holding them accountable for their behavior. If parents approach teen years with the same thoughtful preparation, sense of awe and wonder, and responsibility that they do the early childhood years, it can be an enjoyable and rewarding developmental stage that deepens, rather than damages, parent-child relationships.

Parenting from the Inside Out

How a Deeper Self-Understanding Can Help You Raise Children Who Thrive: 10th Anniversary Edition

Daniel J. Siegel, MD, Mary Hartzell

An updated edition—with a new preface—of the bestselling parenting classic by the author of "BRAINSTORM: The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain" In Parenting from the Inside Out, child psychiatrist Daniel J. Siegel, M.D., and early childhood expert Mary Hartzell, M.Ed., explore the extent to which our childhood experiences shape the way we parent. Drawing on stunning new findings in neurobiology and attachment research, they explain how interpersonal relationships directly impact the development of the brain, and offer parents a step-by-step approach to forming a deeper understanding of their own life stories, which will help them raise compassionate and resilient children. Born out of a series of parents' workshops that combined Siegel's cutting-edge research on how communication impacts brain development with Hartzell's decades of experience as a child-development specialist and parent educator, this book guides parents through creating the necessary foundations for loving and secure relationships with their children.

Childhood Disrupted

How Your Biography Becomes Your Biology, and How You Can Heal

Donna Jackson Nakazawa

An examination of the link between Adverse Childhood Events (ACE's) and adult illnesses.

How to Connect with Your iTeen

A Parenting Road Map

Susan Morris Shaffer, Linda Perlman Gordon

Bullying, gangs, social media, smartphones, reality TV . . . meet the real-life firewall for keeping teens safe How To Connect With Your iTeen is the lifeline every Twenty-First century parent or educator needs. This realistic guide shows adults how to reopen communication with “silent” teenage boys and cut through the drama of teenage girls. Written in clear, straightforward language, it offers successful techniques for navigating everything from socially complex issues surrounding sexting and bullying to such everyday challenges around school and homework. This evidence-based guide equips you with: Effective strategies to nurture and develop the 6 essential characteristics teens need to become productive and successful adults—no matter how they define success Dependable ways to maintain authority and stay emotionally connected to teens in a world of longer work hours, interrupted conversations, and planned activities Reliable methods for keeping teens safe and protecting their privacy

Wenn die Kindheit krank macht

Frühe seelische Verletzungen – die wahre Ursache für Übergewicht, Herz-Kreislauferkrankungen und Co. - Mit wirksamen Strategien für Betroffene und Eltern

Donna Jackson Nakazawa

"Ein Buch ... wie eine Medizin" Jack Kornfield Kann eine kalte Kindheit körperlich krank machen? Neueste Studien belegen, dass klassische internistische Erkrankungen wie Krebs, Rheuma oder Herz-Kreislaufleiden häufig Folgen von frühkindlichen traumatischen Erfahrungen sind. Der Mechanismus ist komplex: Seelische Dauerbelastung löst neuronale Entzündungsprozesse im Gehirn aus, die Veränderungen im körperlichen Stresssystem schädigen das Immunsystem. Die gute Nachricht: Dieser Prozess lässt sich stoppen – selbst im Erwachsenenalter. Die renommierte Gesundheitsexpertin Donna Jackson Nakazawa hat ein elementares Resilienz-Programm entwickelt. Zentrale Elemente sind Achtsamkeitsübungen für Körper und Geist sowie Techniken zum Umgang mit Traumata. So gelingt es, die schwere biologische Hypothek zu tilgen und ein selbstbestimmtes, gesundes Leben zu führen.